Yasss! Nedra Yass! This exactly PERFECT TIMING! I just had that conversation today. And I'm now on bed rest for the month thanks to the doctor and my lack of stress management leading to a stroke this week. I had a friend ask today if she can't come by this Sunday to bring dinner and hang out as planned. Now that wouldn't have ordinarily happen if I wasn't on bed rest. But, I need to do better with the steps you mentioned. And i know that i can't go for 3 months at a time without my "say NO", "No Commitment Week", and my "Pick Me Up Days" . Those are boundaries gorgeous me to self care. And I'm stopping fear of rescheduling with people in it's track's. My peace and energy is crucial. Even after stating aboundary and the person refuses to accept it I don't remain in touch with them. Even my language I don't allow myself to use " joking banter" when I need to say no anymore. I leave my phone on do not disturb 24/7 because I love it and screening my support calls vs disturbing the peace calls. I watch TV, find hobbies, and make to do/ to don't lists and home made calendars I create and post them on my bedroom wall so every morning i see what to/not do and be my own accountability buddy
This came at a such a perfect time in my life, as I am currently going through a season of life where I feel I have overcommitted to things that simply cannot be done in a day. Every day feels like a race against time. It's difficult to find that balance as a young adult as I am ambitious but I also want to make sure I don't burn myself out in the process. But these are some great reminders and I actually journaled about small ways in which I can show up for myself in this season of chaos. Any advice on how young adults in this day and age can manage to move ahead with ambition while prioritising self-care?
I'm in my early 30's and feel the same. I create my own setbacks when i overcommit but now i have a say no day that keeps me on track i have 1 day a week that I do what uplifts me. Make yourself a to do list with the things that have deadlines and prioritize 3 of those thing's 2 things you'd like to get to and 1 fun activity or add rest to your list. I daily add rest to my schedule with a timer so I can decompress and go back to my workaholic drive as I call it then by 5pm factory shuts down and you rest. I hope that helps
Life will be there after you rest. When you are burnt out, you don’t work well. Say no today and future you will be grateful. There never seems to be enough time for rest—create time anyway.
Boundaries are so important especially at this time of year. After having a meltdown about a decade ago I finally realised I had to stop trying to do everything even if it meant getting people's disapproval. How freeing that was.😊😊
Thanks, Nedra. My wife is overwhelmed and I’m always trying to figure out ways to make her life easier. Any suggestions? And great call on the Wedding Scammer!
You may need to offer help without waiting for her to ask. Try to anticipate her needs based on what she's saying or what you know about what's coming up. Mind-reading is not the best approach to being helpful. However, when people strongly believe in doing things on their own, it can be an act of kindness to offer assistance anyway.
Yeah, I always offer - and you know the standard line: it would take me too long to explain it to you, and you wouldn't do it the way I want, anyway. It's a control thing. I'm more than willing to do more; she's not as willing to let go.
Been there as well with my old mum. I had to practically wrestle her to the floor to let me whisk a bowl of cream years ago 😄. Can I suggest making a to do list? Some of us don't like asking for help. It makes us look incapable or incompetent. I am getting better at it these days 🙂
Yasss! Nedra Yass! This exactly PERFECT TIMING! I just had that conversation today. And I'm now on bed rest for the month thanks to the doctor and my lack of stress management leading to a stroke this week. I had a friend ask today if she can't come by this Sunday to bring dinner and hang out as planned. Now that wouldn't have ordinarily happen if I wasn't on bed rest. But, I need to do better with the steps you mentioned. And i know that i can't go for 3 months at a time without my "say NO", "No Commitment Week", and my "Pick Me Up Days" . Those are boundaries gorgeous me to self care. And I'm stopping fear of rescheduling with people in it's track's. My peace and energy is crucial. Even after stating aboundary and the person refuses to accept it I don't remain in touch with them. Even my language I don't allow myself to use " joking banter" when I need to say no anymore. I leave my phone on do not disturb 24/7 because I love it and screening my support calls vs disturbing the peace calls. I watch TV, find hobbies, and make to do/ to don't lists and home made calendars I create and post them on my bedroom wall so every morning i see what to/not do and be my own accountability buddy
I find it so important to make time for rest ESPECIALLY during the busy seasons
Have you listened to Beth Kempton’s podcast “Calm Christmas” or seen her book by the same name? I think you might enjoy them!
Yes! I love the pod and I've finished Part 1 and 2 of the book.
This came at a such a perfect time in my life, as I am currently going through a season of life where I feel I have overcommitted to things that simply cannot be done in a day. Every day feels like a race against time. It's difficult to find that balance as a young adult as I am ambitious but I also want to make sure I don't burn myself out in the process. But these are some great reminders and I actually journaled about small ways in which I can show up for myself in this season of chaos. Any advice on how young adults in this day and age can manage to move ahead with ambition while prioritising self-care?
Great post as always!
I'm in my early 30's and feel the same. I create my own setbacks when i overcommit but now i have a say no day that keeps me on track i have 1 day a week that I do what uplifts me. Make yourself a to do list with the things that have deadlines and prioritize 3 of those thing's 2 things you'd like to get to and 1 fun activity or add rest to your list. I daily add rest to my schedule with a timer so I can decompress and go back to my workaholic drive as I call it then by 5pm factory shuts down and you rest. I hope that helps
That is such great advice, thank you!
Life will be there after you rest. When you are burnt out, you don’t work well. Say no today and future you will be grateful. There never seems to be enough time for rest—create time anyway.
Well said. I think I needed to hear this today as I am trying to incorporate rest in my life. Life ain't going anywhere!
Boundaries are so important especially at this time of year. After having a meltdown about a decade ago I finally realised I had to stop trying to do everything even if it meant getting people's disapproval. How freeing that was.😊😊
Thanks, Nedra. My wife is overwhelmed and I’m always trying to figure out ways to make her life easier. Any suggestions? And great call on the Wedding Scammer!
You may need to offer help without waiting for her to ask. Try to anticipate her needs based on what she's saying or what you know about what's coming up. Mind-reading is not the best approach to being helpful. However, when people strongly believe in doing things on their own, it can be an act of kindness to offer assistance anyway.
Yeah, I always offer - and you know the standard line: it would take me too long to explain it to you, and you wouldn't do it the way I want, anyway. It's a control thing. I'm more than willing to do more; she's not as willing to let go.
Been there as well with my old mum. I had to practically wrestle her to the floor to let me whisk a bowl of cream years ago 😄. Can I suggest making a to do list? Some of us don't like asking for help. It makes us look incapable or incompetent. I am getting better at it these days 🙂