I constantly struggle with S.O.S. (shiny-object syndrome) and it totally derails my best efforts to STAY and APPLY what I've just read, just heard, just learned, and just did. These insights and boundaries are helpful to me apply to my life. There are just so many goodies out there I have a difficult time finishing books, taking notes from really good podcasts, and I jump into the next book, podcast, blah blah blah without applying. What a really cool concept to allow it to marinate a bit. Sometimes the perfect reminder or information pops up just when I need it. I'm allowing that to marinate. Thank you.
I buy so many self-help books but your question resonates. “How much have I actually practiced?” In small group this week the question was raised “how much of the fruit of the spirit do you see in your relationships whether it be friendship, romantic, familial or coworker. Ask yourself are YOU exhibiting those fruits outwardly to others?” These two questions have resonated deeply with me this week so I am taking your 45 day reference to heart and use with them. Thank you Nedra 🥰🙏🏾
I have realised that self-discipline is easy to practice when you are consistent. Slowly and steadily head towards betterment like you said. I loved this post. Thank you for recommending my post as well. It has given me a chance to connect with so many amazing people here on Substack. Really appreciate you!♥️
I love so much about this! "I have choices; I am not powerless" - yes yes yes ✨ And as a trainee counsellor with an interest in the eclectic approach, I love your view on eclectic therapy.
So good! I learned about boundaries about 15 years ago and it felt so powerful. Just small subtle changes in my life such as saying the "no" word which used to fill me with guilt. My upbringing was one of being compliant and accommodating so this was a biggie for me. Also letting go of the need to please and to look after my own needs has been a game changer.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful nugget. I also enjoyed the additional articles at the bottom of your substack particularly the one on Being Yourself Has Become Just Another Performance. Thank you!
This was a great reminder of how we try to do too much all at once. I think us women are so guilty of this. I have been practicing the micro steps that you suggested this year with books and boundaries. I love to read and will buy 20 books in one go but I had to challenge myself in the last 40 days to just buy 4 and funny enough I didn’t buy any albeit there are nearly 25 in my Amazon cart but it showed me that I could be disciplined in that regard and not buy everything I found interesting 😂 Boundaries however have been my biggest challenge and the micro steps definitely helped to enforce them abit better because even if I faltered by giving in one time it means that the next time round I could say no and not feel guilty about it. There is so much that we take on in life that we don’t actually have too or don’t actually reflect on to see how it’s growing or taking away from us. These articles are so encouraging Nedra, I hope you won’t get tired of sharing😊
This was such a timely reminder! As a therapist, I have a shelf full of books—many of which I haven’t finished (and honestly, some are just for reference). I had already made a commitment not to buy any more work-related books or sign up for new trainings until I finish my Gottman certification. Reading your blog today reminded me to slow down and stay focused on my current goals. This was my first time reading your blog, and I definitely plan to keep following. Thank you!
“Before you buy another self-help book, ask yourself: what have I practiced consistently from the last book?”
Thank you for voicing the question I know, deep down, I needed to hear. I can definitely get caught up in constantly taking in new information—but without reflection and practice, the change never really sinks in. I appreciate this thoughtful reminder.
I constantly struggle with S.O.S. (shiny-object syndrome) and it totally derails my best efforts to STAY and APPLY what I've just read, just heard, just learned, and just did. These insights and boundaries are helpful to me apply to my life. There are just so many goodies out there I have a difficult time finishing books, taking notes from really good podcasts, and I jump into the next book, podcast, blah blah blah without applying. What a really cool concept to allow it to marinate a bit. Sometimes the perfect reminder or information pops up just when I need it. I'm allowing that to marinate. Thank you.
I buy so many self-help books but your question resonates. “How much have I actually practiced?” In small group this week the question was raised “how much of the fruit of the spirit do you see in your relationships whether it be friendship, romantic, familial or coworker. Ask yourself are YOU exhibiting those fruits outwardly to others?” These two questions have resonated deeply with me this week so I am taking your 45 day reference to heart and use with them. Thank you Nedra 🥰🙏🏾
I have realised that self-discipline is easy to practice when you are consistent. Slowly and steadily head towards betterment like you said. I loved this post. Thank you for recommending my post as well. It has given me a chance to connect with so many amazing people here on Substack. Really appreciate you!♥️
I love so much about this! "I have choices; I am not powerless" - yes yes yes ✨ And as a trainee counsellor with an interest in the eclectic approach, I love your view on eclectic therapy.
I am so proud of you for giving up red meat! Thank you for making the personal sacrifice in the interest bettering our planet and her inhabitants 💚🐮🌎
This was timely. The older I have gotten; I've found myself doing too much and getting overwhelmed for not being able to focus on the one thing.
So good! I learned about boundaries about 15 years ago and it felt so powerful. Just small subtle changes in my life such as saying the "no" word which used to fill me with guilt. My upbringing was one of being compliant and accommodating so this was a biggie for me. Also letting go of the need to please and to look after my own needs has been a game changer.
Great advice! We don't want to get burned out by doing too much all at once.
Thank you.
This was a helpful reminder to go slow and not take on too much - advice I often give but rarely take.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful nugget. I also enjoyed the additional articles at the bottom of your substack particularly the one on Being Yourself Has Become Just Another Performance. Thank you!
This was a great reminder of how we try to do too much all at once. I think us women are so guilty of this. I have been practicing the micro steps that you suggested this year with books and boundaries. I love to read and will buy 20 books in one go but I had to challenge myself in the last 40 days to just buy 4 and funny enough I didn’t buy any albeit there are nearly 25 in my Amazon cart but it showed me that I could be disciplined in that regard and not buy everything I found interesting 😂 Boundaries however have been my biggest challenge and the micro steps definitely helped to enforce them abit better because even if I faltered by giving in one time it means that the next time round I could say no and not feel guilty about it. There is so much that we take on in life that we don’t actually have too or don’t actually reflect on to see how it’s growing or taking away from us. These articles are so encouraging Nedra, I hope you won’t get tired of sharing😊
This was such a timely reminder! As a therapist, I have a shelf full of books—many of which I haven’t finished (and honestly, some are just for reference). I had already made a commitment not to buy any more work-related books or sign up for new trainings until I finish my Gottman certification. Reading your blog today reminded me to slow down and stay focused on my current goals. This was my first time reading your blog, and I definitely plan to keep following. Thank you!
“Before you buy another self-help book, ask yourself: what have I practiced consistently from the last book?”
Thank you for voicing the question I know, deep down, I needed to hear. I can definitely get caught up in constantly taking in new information—but without reflection and practice, the change never really sinks in. I appreciate this thoughtful reminder.
Thank you 🙏🏻
I need a therapist like you