This helped me immensely. I’ve been so broken hearted since my mother (my last living relative of her generation and the previous ones) succumbed after a 25 year battle. I say to myself on a daily basis that I’ve seen too much, and I truthfully believe I have after having been her caregiver in her final years.
But I also tell myself that I’m too damaged to continue growing in my life. I’m young, I shouldn’t have already given up on my future because I’m too hurt by my past. The story I need to change is that my story has already ended.
I was telling myself that my thoughts and my beliefs were the same. I realized I didn’t actually believe this because I thought no one person could be superior to another while I kept working hard to prevent myself from being inferior. I felt guilty for taking some time for myself. How could inferiority exist without belief in superiority? My emotions revealed my beliefs.. I can stop telling myself that my thoughts and beliefs are automatically identical. I can look to my emotions to reveal my beliefs and then I can align my thoughts with my beliefs. And then I am the truth about me.
I relate to this completely. Easy to fall into the victim hood. So much easier than stepping up and taking action. I just finished writing a post about identity. Realizing we have the power to be who we want - feels revolutionary if you’ve been stuck - thinking that how you feel is how things are. ❤️
So well said
This helped me immensely. I’ve been so broken hearted since my mother (my last living relative of her generation and the previous ones) succumbed after a 25 year battle. I say to myself on a daily basis that I’ve seen too much, and I truthfully believe I have after having been her caregiver in her final years.
But I also tell myself that I’m too damaged to continue growing in my life. I’m young, I shouldn’t have already given up on my future because I’m too hurt by my past. The story I need to change is that my story has already ended.
Truly amazing insights from this post!
If you see this in other family members, how do you recommend telling them, kindly? Or is it not our place to tell them?
I was telling myself that my thoughts and my beliefs were the same. I realized I didn’t actually believe this because I thought no one person could be superior to another while I kept working hard to prevent myself from being inferior. I felt guilty for taking some time for myself. How could inferiority exist without belief in superiority? My emotions revealed my beliefs.. I can stop telling myself that my thoughts and beliefs are automatically identical. I can look to my emotions to reveal my beliefs and then I can align my thoughts with my beliefs. And then I am the truth about me.
Nedra, You are incredibly wise, concise, compassionate and very creative. I am inspired and blessed by you.
Thank you! Kind words fuel my creative spirit.
This is so on point and shared this reading (by reading it out loud) to others that suffer from "compassion fatigue".
I loved this so much!
Would love to see you on Threads
I believe she is on threads :)
I relate to this completely. Easy to fall into the victim hood. So much easier than stepping up and taking action. I just finished writing a post about identity. Realizing we have the power to be who we want - feels revolutionary if you’ve been stuck - thinking that how you feel is how things are. ❤️
I pray you find what is BEST for you