beautifully said. i think i struggle a lot with letting go, and falling into nostalgia instead of being thankful for seasonal friendships and moving on peacefully. this is a good reminder and a validation because sometimes those friendships really do affect you deeply no matter how short lived
Going through a season now of letting go of decades long relationships. I am doing a private ceremony with myself to honor and thank them for the time we shared but letting them go gently with love as I have shifted in my energy and what aligns and feels good in my body for who and what supports that. It feels like a grieving but also feels very good. I’ve opened up so much space to create where they took up space as I poured into them.
Love this was just sitting with how I should allow closeness or distance to occur naturally. I’ve been able to come across some really amazing ppl and sometimes I wonder if there were ways for me to tend to the relationship more or if it just wasn’t meant to be. Reflecting on a few I want to rekindle to see what happens
Nedra Nuggets always seem to hit a core with me no matter what is happening in my life at the time I read it. You truly have a gift at writing, as you continue to enlighten me with such profound advice. While at the same time, your words comfort me like a hug of kindness to grow. Thank You Nedra !
Nedra, I absolutely love and look forward to your writings. Everything you put out there resonates with me through and through. This morning the short-term friendships conversation was very relevant. I am going through several losses in my family and people were there for me for that short time that shared my grief. They're not going to be in my life forever, but they certainly were extremely important at the moment. Thank you for everything that you do!
This post came at the perfect time, thank you! I have a situation where I am grateful for the deeply cherished relationships from my previous career but have since moved onto a new life. However some of my former coworker friends don't seem to accept the idea of seasonal relationships and I might have to share this post with them somehow.
This is so beautiful! I often tend to feel guilty or bad to have failed to keep up with some of my closest friends at a particular time and it really helps to see things from this perspective. 🫶
"Some people come into our lives for a specific purpose, and there’s no need to rekindle the relationship. Instead, we can simply appreciate what we had—the role they played, the part of ourselves they helped bring out, or the lessons they taught us. That relationship may be complete because that particular season of our life is complete". This wasn't a nugget Nedra but rather a whole meal:) Thank you for highlighting the importance of these types of relationships because they have the same or even more impact as long-term relations...I gained so much insight from each level of life and the people who walked beside me during those periods. Growth, acknowledgement, lessons, laughter, so much is gained in these short periods that you sometimes don't get in long-term childhood relationships.
I had to let a couple go recently. One was painful, but it just didn't serve any purpose for either of us. We are now traveling in different worlds. Great piece.
Nedra, this, more than any other post of yours, hit me hard. What an incredibly important lesson in life and friendships. Why don't we talk about this more? I've spent a big part of my life with seasonal friendships, and some have become long term. But for those seasonal one, I'm always left wondering if I should be doing something different or trying harder. Doing everything I can to maintain the friendship even though it didn't feel right. Thank you for this clarity. It makes so much sense. If more of us knew this, possibly those times in the friendship, we would enjoy it more because we would understand its purpose. Thank you!
Lori, you provided a wonderful breakdown “we would enjoy it more because we would understand its purpose.” Everything won’t be deep, but it can still be good and meaningful.
For me it’s never about length, it’s about depth. Relationships are not always meant to last forever just because as human beings we continually change and evolve. I’m not who I used to be just a few years ago. The people who are still here and I’m still there for are those with whom we’ve been walking the same path together, constantly opening our hearts to who we’ve been becoming.
I have seasonal relationships that resurface from time to time. Currently I just ended one that allows me to see the art of kindness in letting go and hope with nodoubt is no longer an issue for me and clarity resolutions, and childhood wounds can close now because I'm open to fully stepping into the present age version of me with full support from myself and other's. Now my life can begin in a new way. Annually we redesign our lives by choices we make to keep and let go of when it comes to folks.
beautifully said. i think i struggle a lot with letting go, and falling into nostalgia instead of being thankful for seasonal friendships and moving on peacefully. this is a good reminder and a validation because sometimes those friendships really do affect you deeply no matter how short lived
Going through a season now of letting go of decades long relationships. I am doing a private ceremony with myself to honor and thank them for the time we shared but letting them go gently with love as I have shifted in my energy and what aligns and feels good in my body for who and what supports that. It feels like a grieving but also feels very good. I’ve opened up so much space to create where they took up space as I poured into them.
I love this! It caused me to think about short term relationships I’ve had throughout my 71 years in this earth! Wonderful!🙌🏼
Love this perspective.
Love this was just sitting with how I should allow closeness or distance to occur naturally. I’ve been able to come across some really amazing ppl and sometimes I wonder if there were ways for me to tend to the relationship more or if it just wasn’t meant to be. Reflecting on a few I want to rekindle to see what happens
Dear Tresor Nedra, Such wise counsel! You are much younger than me, but so sharp! This is a timely message. Blessings to you in great abundance! 🙏
Thank you!
Nedra Nuggets always seem to hit a core with me no matter what is happening in my life at the time I read it. You truly have a gift at writing, as you continue to enlighten me with such profound advice. While at the same time, your words comfort me like a hug of kindness to grow. Thank You Nedra !
So true. Nice perspective on the people who touch our lives for a reason and a season.
Nedra, I absolutely love and look forward to your writings. Everything you put out there resonates with me through and through. This morning the short-term friendships conversation was very relevant. I am going through several losses in my family and people were there for me for that short time that shared my grief. They're not going to be in my life forever, but they certainly were extremely important at the moment. Thank you for everything that you do!
This post came at the perfect time, thank you! I have a situation where I am grateful for the deeply cherished relationships from my previous career but have since moved onto a new life. However some of my former coworker friends don't seem to accept the idea of seasonal relationships and I might have to share this post with them somehow.
This is so beautiful! I often tend to feel guilty or bad to have failed to keep up with some of my closest friends at a particular time and it really helps to see things from this perspective. 🫶
We grow apart at times, but we often find our way back together when the moment is right. Life is a constant cycle of gaining and shedding.
"Some people come into our lives for a specific purpose, and there’s no need to rekindle the relationship. Instead, we can simply appreciate what we had—the role they played, the part of ourselves they helped bring out, or the lessons they taught us. That relationship may be complete because that particular season of our life is complete". This wasn't a nugget Nedra but rather a whole meal:) Thank you for highlighting the importance of these types of relationships because they have the same or even more impact as long-term relations...I gained so much insight from each level of life and the people who walked beside me during those periods. Growth, acknowledgement, lessons, laughter, so much is gained in these short periods that you sometimes don't get in long-term childhood relationships.
“A whole meal.” Thank you!😊
I had to let a couple go recently. One was painful, but it just didn't serve any purpose for either of us. We are now traveling in different worlds. Great piece.
Nedra, this, more than any other post of yours, hit me hard. What an incredibly important lesson in life and friendships. Why don't we talk about this more? I've spent a big part of my life with seasonal friendships, and some have become long term. But for those seasonal one, I'm always left wondering if I should be doing something different or trying harder. Doing everything I can to maintain the friendship even though it didn't feel right. Thank you for this clarity. It makes so much sense. If more of us knew this, possibly those times in the friendship, we would enjoy it more because we would understand its purpose. Thank you!
Lori, you provided a wonderful breakdown “we would enjoy it more because we would understand its purpose.” Everything won’t be deep, but it can still be good and meaningful.
For me it’s never about length, it’s about depth. Relationships are not always meant to last forever just because as human beings we continually change and evolve. I’m not who I used to be just a few years ago. The people who are still here and I’m still there for are those with whom we’ve been walking the same path together, constantly opening our hearts to who we’ve been becoming.
I have seasonal relationships that resurface from time to time. Currently I just ended one that allows me to see the art of kindness in letting go and hope with nodoubt is no longer an issue for me and clarity resolutions, and childhood wounds can close now because I'm open to fully stepping into the present age version of me with full support from myself and other's. Now my life can begin in a new way. Annually we redesign our lives by choices we make to keep and let go of when it comes to folks.
Thanks Nedra I needed this!
It’s beautiful when things don’t end and people come back around.
Yes. And it's even more beautiful to end an unhealthy relationship on peaceful terms we choose to set! ☺