Oh boy. This is my mom. A hundred percent. She will say A and then when it turns out she’s wrong she’ll claim she said B all along. She’s done this all my life. I’ve seriously considered recording her with my iPhone so I can play it back to her 😂
Thanks for this. I just put an important relationship on pause because of repeated lying, especially in circumstances where he wants to avoid “getting in trouble”. His lying makes me feel like authentic resolution is impossible. I’ve tried directly speaking with him about the lying, but he won’t address it and will even dig in his heels when presented with evidence of his lies during disputes. When I brought up this most recent issue, I spent a week planning how I would approach him but things still went sideways. My heart is so broken 😞 I understand his reasons for lying, but it still takes the wind out of me when he does. I would love to see more tools for responding to lying. Thanks so much for your content.
Do you have more insight/options to help with this? I currently am dealing with this with my boyfriend of 3 years and it's gotten to the point where it's the biggest issue in our relationship and it is finally starting to catch up to him and damage friendships because people have quickly caught on because of how frequent and often he lies. I understand a lot of reasons behind some of the lies (insecurity, shame, fear etc) but it's the ones that are out of nowhere that also can be so easily debunked. Please help!! We are finally looking into therapy, but I feel like some additional activities may be helpful for him to work on independently.
I have the opposite issue: I’m often ‘too’ honest. Oversharer. I sometimes tell people things they don’t necessarily need to know. I live for Truth. I guess that’s why I write on Substack 😂
1. I, too, hate that so many things require a subscription. Often when I look at the article there is no paywall. However, as the articles become more popular, paywalls pop up. I will try to find more articles from sources that don't require a paywall.
For me, lying is also a good indication of who carries true emotional bandwidth for me & who around me shares similar values. Honesty often requires us to sit in the yuck and be vulnerable. The people who are willing to live in the truth are the ones I hang on to.
Oh boy. This is my mom. A hundred percent. She will say A and then when it turns out she’s wrong she’ll claim she said B all along. She’s done this all my life. I’ve seriously considered recording her with my iPhone so I can play it back to her 😂
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Thanks for this. I just put an important relationship on pause because of repeated lying, especially in circumstances where he wants to avoid “getting in trouble”. His lying makes me feel like authentic resolution is impossible. I’ve tried directly speaking with him about the lying, but he won’t address it and will even dig in his heels when presented with evidence of his lies during disputes. When I brought up this most recent issue, I spent a week planning how I would approach him but things still went sideways. My heart is so broken 😞 I understand his reasons for lying, but it still takes the wind out of me when he does. I would love to see more tools for responding to lying. Thanks so much for your content.
Oof; that’s tough. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that.
Everybody lies a little🎯
Do you have more insight/options to help with this? I currently am dealing with this with my boyfriend of 3 years and it's gotten to the point where it's the biggest issue in our relationship and it is finally starting to catch up to him and damage friendships because people have quickly caught on because of how frequent and often he lies. I understand a lot of reasons behind some of the lies (insecurity, shame, fear etc) but it's the ones that are out of nowhere that also can be so easily debunked. Please help!! We are finally looking into therapy, but I feel like some additional activities may be helpful for him to work on independently.
I have the opposite issue: I’m often ‘too’ honest. Oversharer. I sometimes tell people things they don’t necessarily need to know. I live for Truth. I guess that’s why I write on Substack 😂
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1. I, too, hate that so many things require a subscription. Often when I look at the article there is no paywall. However, as the articles become more popular, paywalls pop up. I will try to find more articles from sources that don't require a paywall.
2. Check out this alternate perspective (healthy boundaries) of The Giving Tree https://www.topherpayne.com/giving-tree
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For me, lying is also a good indication of who carries true emotional bandwidth for me & who around me shares similar values. Honesty often requires us to sit in the yuck and be vulnerable. The people who are willing to live in the truth are the ones I hang on to.
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Love this! Excellent point of reflection.
Thanks for holding the mirror up so I can dig a little deeper Nedra!