I sometimes overlook the people I care about the most, and this post is a great reminder to cultivate appreciation for them. I think it's also important, though, to remember that all of us change and that our relationships will change too -- and that's ok. With love and attention, we can create a new dynamic without regrets, or trying to get back to the way it was (or the way we think it was). Blessings to you, Nedra!
Yet another post that is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! Long term relationships can feel like so much work that we forget the little things that brought us together. Making time for that gets harder and harder with all the distractions in the world. I’ll be taking a hard look at myself and aiming to be a better partner.
The cable company though! My bill was almost $300 a month for something that functioned about 60% of the time. You’d think I was in the wilderness instead of the middle of a city. I was constantly rebooting something to try and get it to work or on hold waiting for a human. It felt so good to cut that cord!
I love how you highlighted the importance of listening in relationships. It's so true – really listening is a way to show love and respect. I know I've been guilty of nodding along while my mind is a million miles away. But when someone genuinely listens to me, it makes me feel valued and understood. I'm going to make a conscious effort to be more present in my conversations with the people I care about. It's the little things that often make the biggest difference.
I always try to incorporate the story of how we first met. It gives energy and fun. And then I like talking about whY we've learned or grown from that time .teething we enjoyed doing is what we maintain and deepen connection via in person or virtual trips ,or activities, phone convos are great especially when we try to 3-way one another with our group of 4! Lol and remember our individualism that had parts of our personality that got enhanced for the better. I send gifts ordering meaningful things as well like drive out of state to help them Care for a loved one and let my presence bring comfort etc. I had an ex boyfriend reach out the last 3 weeks which was nice for a time we even tried to see if we could go to the NBA game in CLT this upcoming season . You just never know sometimes our history with a person can be a barrier for good or bad depending on effects
In business, I've observed that most executives don't really get that it is less expensive to keep existing customers than finding and wooing new ones. Really dumb. In any service business an enthusiastically pleased customer base will attract new customers like a magnet. At full price.
I think what gets lost easily in the flow of relationship is an appreciation for the other's differentness. What was very attractive becomes the focus of what we want to change, mistaking alignment as goal, when attunement really sustains.
Healthy relationships are vessels for the partners separate individuation paths. Sometimes those paths lose sight of each other, but strong commitment for each other's growth connects.
I totally agree with you in regard to not appreciating and long term partners differences. I am most definitely guilty of this and am happy to be reminded that it’s not helpful.
The article on gassing your partner up was a brilliant read and resonated with me in a big way. I am guilty of this having been lopsided in my relationship and it was helpful to read why this might be. I try harder to redress this balance now.
Thank you SO MUCH for giving my book MODERN FRIENDSHIP a shout-out, Nedra! You're the best!!
Everyone deserves to have wonderful, nourishing friendships. My book is a manual for how to get them. To better friendships for all!
You're welcome!
I sometimes overlook the people I care about the most, and this post is a great reminder to cultivate appreciation for them. I think it's also important, though, to remember that all of us change and that our relationships will change too -- and that's ok. With love and attention, we can create a new dynamic without regrets, or trying to get back to the way it was (or the way we think it was). Blessings to you, Nedra!
Yet another post that is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! Long term relationships can feel like so much work that we forget the little things that brought us together. Making time for that gets harder and harder with all the distractions in the world. I’ll be taking a hard look at myself and aiming to be a better partner.
The cable company though! My bill was almost $300 a month for something that functioned about 60% of the time. You’d think I was in the wilderness instead of the middle of a city. I was constantly rebooting something to try and get it to work or on hold waiting for a human. It felt so good to cut that cord!
I love how you highlighted the importance of listening in relationships. It's so true – really listening is a way to show love and respect. I know I've been guilty of nodding along while my mind is a million miles away. But when someone genuinely listens to me, it makes me feel valued and understood. I'm going to make a conscious effort to be more present in my conversations with the people I care about. It's the little things that often make the biggest difference.
Great reminder
Well said. The pointers were spot on. I really liked the loyalty program comparison, so true.
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I always try to incorporate the story of how we first met. It gives energy and fun. And then I like talking about whY we've learned or grown from that time .teething we enjoyed doing is what we maintain and deepen connection via in person or virtual trips ,or activities, phone convos are great especially when we try to 3-way one another with our group of 4! Lol and remember our individualism that had parts of our personality that got enhanced for the better. I send gifts ordering meaningful things as well like drive out of state to help them Care for a loved one and let my presence bring comfort etc. I had an ex boyfriend reach out the last 3 weeks which was nice for a time we even tried to see if we could go to the NBA game in CLT this upcoming season . You just never know sometimes our history with a person can be a barrier for good or bad depending on effects
In business, I've observed that most executives don't really get that it is less expensive to keep existing customers than finding and wooing new ones. Really dumb. In any service business an enthusiastically pleased customer base will attract new customers like a magnet. At full price.
I think what gets lost easily in the flow of relationship is an appreciation for the other's differentness. What was very attractive becomes the focus of what we want to change, mistaking alignment as goal, when attunement really sustains.
Healthy relationships are vessels for the partners separate individuation paths. Sometimes those paths lose sight of each other, but strong commitment for each other's growth connects.
I totally agree with you in regard to not appreciating and long term partners differences. I am most definitely guilty of this and am happy to be reminded that it’s not helpful.
The article on gassing your partner up was a brilliant read and resonated with me in a big way. I am guilty of this having been lopsided in my relationship and it was helpful to read why this might be. I try harder to redress this balance now.