Thank you for this inspiring article. Some relationships may actually cause stagnation in our lives, we all need to be self-conscious and recognize when to let go.
Great insight. I am for sure moving into my transition era with friendships and I am learning it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It can be something that helps honour the relationship changing. It’s difficult however, when some friends only want all or nothing. But I guess that’s their learning. So long as I’ve done mine.
I just texted my former bff yesterday regarding an international event we attended Sunday night and she was appreciativeof my reaching out. Granted it's weird trying to figure whats worth our time with the relationship. I told her while i may not be in a full friendship with you it doesn't mean we cant still share our milestones especially since our chemistry is still alive in its own way. So i invited her to my upcoming housewarming party .Granted, i thought if i died would I have the closure and forgiveness on my part with her and myself in the situation or would I die still yearning for the unsaid/undone thing in regards to resenting myself for hurting myself in harboring resentment over what I did control and couldn't control? Hence, my relationship with this person is extremely different now but a learning curve especially with the all or nothing thinking issue i possess.
I ask myself ‘would I go to this person’s funeral if they died?’ If the answer is yes, I ask myself how I can be in relationship with them to not feel too much regret when they die. Sometimes its a Christmas card, to honour the past and hold the door open a crack until our different needs and capacities align again.
About being in different stages of life with one's cousin/friend: I call it a 'to be continued' friendship when you haven't talked to each other for ages but connect as if you resumed the conversation in a 'to be continued manner'.
On using depression as an escape goat to be rude: I say that those people shouldn't affect the ones who can potentially help them out either with lending their or any other way. Depression or any other preoccupation isn't the passport to targeting easy targets.
Wow this insight is so timely & very helpful. I’m currently working through shifting angles within my closest relationships & it’s been challenging but I am happy to recognize that it’s CHANGE that is required, nothing more nothing less. I appreciate your sharing 🙏🏽💕
Yesss. Often when I take care of understanding the polarized parts in me that create the rigid binary, much more possibility opens 🌷
Timely & needed ❤️
Thank you for this inspiring article. Some relationships may actually cause stagnation in our lives, we all need to be self-conscious and recognize when to let go.
Great insight. I am for sure moving into my transition era with friendships and I am learning it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It can be something that helps honour the relationship changing. It’s difficult however, when some friends only want all or nothing. But I guess that’s their learning. So long as I’ve done mine.
Thanks Nedra :-)
I just texted my former bff yesterday regarding an international event we attended Sunday night and she was appreciativeof my reaching out. Granted it's weird trying to figure whats worth our time with the relationship. I told her while i may not be in a full friendship with you it doesn't mean we cant still share our milestones especially since our chemistry is still alive in its own way. So i invited her to my upcoming housewarming party .Granted, i thought if i died would I have the closure and forgiveness on my part with her and myself in the situation or would I die still yearning for the unsaid/undone thing in regards to resenting myself for hurting myself in harboring resentment over what I did control and couldn't control? Hence, my relationship with this person is extremely different now but a learning curve especially with the all or nothing thinking issue i possess.
This was right on time.
Great tips! We spend too long in relationships that are no longer in our highest good.
I ask myself ‘would I go to this person’s funeral if they died?’ If the answer is yes, I ask myself how I can be in relationship with them to not feel too much regret when they die. Sometimes its a Christmas card, to honour the past and hold the door open a crack until our different needs and capacities align again.
Loveee this!!! Thank you!!
Here you go Nedra again :)
About being in different stages of life with one's cousin/friend: I call it a 'to be continued' friendship when you haven't talked to each other for ages but connect as if you resumed the conversation in a 'to be continued manner'.
On using depression as an escape goat to be rude: I say that those people shouldn't affect the ones who can potentially help them out either with lending their or any other way. Depression or any other preoccupation isn't the passport to targeting easy targets.
Very helpful and practical.
Wow this insight is so timely & very helpful. I’m currently working through shifting angles within my closest relationships & it’s been challenging but I am happy to recognize that it’s CHANGE that is required, nothing more nothing less. I appreciate your sharing 🙏🏽💕