Great timely reminder of what I learned I therapy. Letting go that my mom isn't ever going to be the perfect mom I expected her to be. Granted I just had surgery 2 days ago and my mom drove out of state to show upfor me and that meant alot and now I'm recovering at her home. And now I've learned to let go of the mentality " well I'll just figure it out because I know you're not going to do something for me " attitude and it's growth from my therapy. And even letting go of the idea that I don't have to accept glimpses of what a man does that makes me feel special in the moment for me to settle in relationships when I deserve more to be loved by the right person in time. I learned that in my dad's absence and now I'm better navigating my relationships with men. But sitting with my feelings is new that I've been working on with my therapist. Once i feel better from surgery I'll be better able to think clearly.. thank you Nedra for this reminderreminder!! It keeps me accountable now that therapy is over.
This is such a great essay, Nedra. I agree with all of this. It's about giving yourself permission to feel however you feel (including respecting your need to get a break from your feelings).
This was so helpful in guiding me out of the stuck position I’ve been trying to shake for five years. It keeps resurfacing when I think I gotten over it and moved forward there are reminded that take me back.
I know exactly what podcast because I literally just listened to that episode last night haha! What great timing of this because I was honestly pondering the same thing.
This resonated as I’ve been working through some past trauma and have also been feeling very stuck. I think I’ve felt if I’m not melancholic or feeling heavy, I’m not honoring that part. I can give myself permission to acknowledge the emotions and also set them free. This might be the best honoring of all.
I used to be a grief writer and speaker, so this post from you today clarifies much. My natural tendency toward rumination became a way for me to remain mired in my stuck feelings and stress, so the personal work I've done during the last few years has been recognizing when I need to take a breather from all the heaviness and do something fun or light. Knowing when to pull closer and when to step away is, it seems, a delicate dance to learn.
Great timely reminder of what I learned I therapy. Letting go that my mom isn't ever going to be the perfect mom I expected her to be. Granted I just had surgery 2 days ago and my mom drove out of state to show upfor me and that meant alot and now I'm recovering at her home. And now I've learned to let go of the mentality " well I'll just figure it out because I know you're not going to do something for me " attitude and it's growth from my therapy. And even letting go of the idea that I don't have to accept glimpses of what a man does that makes me feel special in the moment for me to settle in relationships when I deserve more to be loved by the right person in time. I learned that in my dad's absence and now I'm better navigating my relationships with men. But sitting with my feelings is new that I've been working on with my therapist. Once i feel better from surgery I'll be better able to think clearly.. thank you Nedra for this reminderreminder!! It keeps me accountable now that therapy is over.
This is such a great essay, Nedra. I agree with all of this. It's about giving yourself permission to feel however you feel (including respecting your need to get a break from your feelings).
This is such a great counterpoint to everything that says do one thing or the other. Really appreciated reading this today.
Such important contemplations here. Thank you
I love this! Thank you so much putting this inter perspective! 💖🙌🏽👏🏽
This was so helpful in guiding me out of the stuck position I’ve been trying to shake for five years. It keeps resurfacing when I think I gotten over it and moved forward there are reminded that take me back.
I know exactly what podcast because I literally just listened to that episode last night haha! What great timing of this because I was honestly pondering the same thing.
Your questions are helpful. So often we are told to sit with our feelings. Your perspective feels like freedom. Thank you.
This resonated as I’ve been working through some past trauma and have also been feeling very stuck. I think I’ve felt if I’m not melancholic or feeling heavy, I’m not honoring that part. I can give myself permission to acknowledge the emotions and also set them free. This might be the best honoring of all.
Nedra,
I used to be a grief writer and speaker, so this post from you today clarifies much. My natural tendency toward rumination became a way for me to remain mired in my stuck feelings and stress, so the personal work I've done during the last few years has been recognizing when I need to take a breather from all the heaviness and do something fun or light. Knowing when to pull closer and when to step away is, it seems, a delicate dance to learn.