This is a good read! I was asking myself last night was I being too nice, was i forgiving easily. I know I’m not going back to this person but have to see them (co-parent) and the fact that everything seems normal (yet peaceful) which is what I asked god for, Peace - I just don’t want to be overly nice because I’m a kind person period. So this helped. I think my answer is to keep a good enough distance and remain true to myself.
I have consistently come to my daughter’s rescue. She has run away multiple times and now has a daughter herself at 21. Every time I allow her to come back home, she disrupts the house and is ungrateful, selfish and disrespectful. I’m currently re-establishing my boundaries and if my expectations are not met, she will have to find a place of her own.
Wow. !!! What a great post !!! Thank you for writing this. It is right in line with what I learned the hard way over 20 years in a relationship with someone who never earned forgiveness, and yet I continually forgave them.
After several painful years, I finally realized I needed to cut off a long-standing friendship. I have more than two decades of memories of a once-good friendship, now tinged with pain. We don't see each other anymore, but occasionally bump into each other in the grocery store. I still carry grief over what was lost, resentment about the years of angst, and guilt about cutting off the friendship. I would love to hear from Nedra sometime about what happens after you make the painful break, how to forgive yourself for making the break, and how to move forward in love and peace.
This is a good read! I was asking myself last night was I being too nice, was i forgiving easily. I know I’m not going back to this person but have to see them (co-parent) and the fact that everything seems normal (yet peaceful) which is what I asked god for, Peace - I just don’t want to be overly nice because I’m a kind person period. So this helped. I think my answer is to keep a good enough distance and remain true to myself.
I have consistently come to my daughter’s rescue. She has run away multiple times and now has a daughter herself at 21. Every time I allow her to come back home, she disrupts the house and is ungrateful, selfish and disrespectful. I’m currently re-establishing my boundaries and if my expectations are not met, she will have to find a place of her own.
Thank you for this- I had to be firm with my adult son- and this helps -
Wow. !!! What a great post !!! Thank you for writing this. It is right in line with what I learned the hard way over 20 years in a relationship with someone who never earned forgiveness, and yet I continually forgave them.
After several painful years, I finally realized I needed to cut off a long-standing friendship. I have more than two decades of memories of a once-good friendship, now tinged with pain. We don't see each other anymore, but occasionally bump into each other in the grocery store. I still carry grief over what was lost, resentment about the years of angst, and guilt about cutting off the friendship. I would love to hear from Nedra sometime about what happens after you make the painful break, how to forgive yourself for making the break, and how to move forward in love and peace.
Ending a friendship is a devastating state and I'm sure it's challenging still seeing each other from time-to-time.
I would like to read your books especially set boundaries find peace but I live in Turkey and I could not find it :(
Set Boundaries, Find Peace is available in Turkish. The publisher is Batik.