"the patterns we don’t recognize are the ones we keep repeating" - this is why I find journalling so helpful, especially since I don't want to pay for therapy at the moment.
Yess NEDRA you done ate me up, chewed me up and spit me right back out!! I needed this… thank you for sharing this because I’m in a season or unlearning the habits/patterns that are not growing me! Very timely!!
Great posting. Pattern recognition is the higher education that is critical for true Awareness work. Sometimes I feel like my patterns are shape-shifting, hieroglyphics created to prevent me from being great. Pattern recognition is a skill set that is not talked about enough - it calls out for more discussion. Thanks for posting.
Yesss!! Nedra PERFECT TIMING!! I'm actively working through a pattern in therapy now. Last weekend I had a panic attack for the 1st time in 2 years after recovery. So I went back to find the reason that triggered it. It was my ex boyfriend and father to our unborn child I lost. Granted, I learned in therapy that between my daddy issues and being emotionally abused and my desire to be loved, going on hope with no doubt, and need for comfort in chaos via trauma that this man was so intertwined that even though he wants to be "friend's " my gut is always right about why I don't want to deal with him. So I packed up all the things I had of him and put it in the mail yesterday and I blocked him for good and took off the app he contacts me on. And I realized I'm able to be the version of me I'm choosing to be and now on my way to a healthy relationship with a new man completely opposite of what I've dated and I'm so proud of myself. Granted, I'm not proud of the fact that I had the attack as the final boundary straw. Knowing all the red flags which I consistently kept restricting access then going back. But even in doing that I learned I know what I want and who I am.
"the patterns we don’t recognize are the ones we keep repeating" - this is why I find journalling so helpful, especially since I don't want to pay for therapy at the moment.
Noticing this about myself lately- so good!
Yess NEDRA you done ate me up, chewed me up and spit me right back out!! I needed this… thank you for sharing this because I’m in a season or unlearning the habits/patterns that are not growing me! Very timely!!
I got a fortune cookie once that said: The Lesson will repeat until it is Learned.
I like "when the student is ready the teacher appears".
Great posting. Pattern recognition is the higher education that is critical for true Awareness work. Sometimes I feel like my patterns are shape-shifting, hieroglyphics created to prevent me from being great. Pattern recognition is a skill set that is not talked about enough - it calls out for more discussion. Thanks for posting.
Let the people Amen!
Yesss!! Nedra PERFECT TIMING!! I'm actively working through a pattern in therapy now. Last weekend I had a panic attack for the 1st time in 2 years after recovery. So I went back to find the reason that triggered it. It was my ex boyfriend and father to our unborn child I lost. Granted, I learned in therapy that between my daddy issues and being emotionally abused and my desire to be loved, going on hope with no doubt, and need for comfort in chaos via trauma that this man was so intertwined that even though he wants to be "friend's " my gut is always right about why I don't want to deal with him. So I packed up all the things I had of him and put it in the mail yesterday and I blocked him for good and took off the app he contacts me on. And I realized I'm able to be the version of me I'm choosing to be and now on my way to a healthy relationship with a new man completely opposite of what I've dated and I'm so proud of myself. Granted, I'm not proud of the fact that I had the attack as the final boundary straw. Knowing all the red flags which I consistently kept restricting access then going back. But even in doing that I learned I know what I want and who I am.
I love the journal prompt! So thoughtful!
This was great. Thanks for sharing.