Wow so powerful and straight to the point. Thank you for giving me a great example of brevity! Also, these links to other resources have been so helpful.
This nugget prompted me to look up the following quote: "... envy is a mistake that just keeps on giving. Obviously we suffer a little when some misfortune befalls us, but envy requires us to suffer all good fortune that befalls everyone we know! What a bright prospect that is—downing another quart of pickle juice every time anyone around you has a happy moment!"
I have a childhood friend who revealed at a point that she was competing with me and it really changed how I felt about her. We drifted apart completely after that, but are still friends online. I see now that she is doing way better than me in certain ways. I used to be the skinny friend and she was fighting obesity. Now, I’m overweight and she’s had a bypass and got skinny. It’s like bizarro world. I’m happy she finally lost all that weight, but I feel a slight tinge of jealousy(?) I think maybe if she hadn’t revealed that she didn’t want me to be doing better than her - maybe I’d feel nothing but happiness for her instead of this complicated thing. Now sometimes I feel like I have to hurry up and lose all my weight and get skinny again because I think maybe she’s trying to one up me, but on the other hand why should I even care? I didn’t want to be roped into a competition. We are living completely different lives. So I’m thinking I’m just going to get off of social media so I can live my life unburdened by comparison.
This has been on my mind for some time, but in the opposite direction. What advice do you have for people whose partners are saying how you are better than them? This was a severe problem in my last relationship and I do not want to have that happen again. For example I don't particularly like them holding my degree and credentials (I have a PhD) as meaning I'm somehow better than them, at least in some aspects.
So timely! I just finished reading Wanting by Luke Burgis on how we often mimic what others want without knowing and the harm it can cause in relationships. Though insightful, it didn’t offer many actionable ideas to explore our wants. I appreciate the thoughtful journal prompts to examine those desires and be more aware of why we want what we want ❤️
This was more relatable than I initially thought it would be. I also enjoyed your recommended reads. 2 articles mentioned the need for “awe” in our lives. I’m on it!! Thanks for the leads!
Love this and trying to get to root. So I can be better to my loved ones
Wow so powerful and straight to the point. Thank you for giving me a great example of brevity! Also, these links to other resources have been so helpful.
This nugget prompted me to look up the following quote: "... envy is a mistake that just keeps on giving. Obviously we suffer a little when some misfortune befalls us, but envy requires us to suffer all good fortune that befalls everyone we know! What a bright prospect that is—downing another quart of pickle juice every time anyone around you has a happy moment!"
As always, absolutely LOVE you writing and love reading it before going to sleep :)🤍
Thank you, Nedra , for this relatable post! I feel seen and ready to ask myself those questions in future.
I have a childhood friend who revealed at a point that she was competing with me and it really changed how I felt about her. We drifted apart completely after that, but are still friends online. I see now that she is doing way better than me in certain ways. I used to be the skinny friend and she was fighting obesity. Now, I’m overweight and she’s had a bypass and got skinny. It’s like bizarro world. I’m happy she finally lost all that weight, but I feel a slight tinge of jealousy(?) I think maybe if she hadn’t revealed that she didn’t want me to be doing better than her - maybe I’d feel nothing but happiness for her instead of this complicated thing. Now sometimes I feel like I have to hurry up and lose all my weight and get skinny again because I think maybe she’s trying to one up me, but on the other hand why should I even care? I didn’t want to be roped into a competition. We are living completely different lives. So I’m thinking I’m just going to get off of social media so I can live my life unburdened by comparison.
This has been on my mind for some time, but in the opposite direction. What advice do you have for people whose partners are saying how you are better than them? This was a severe problem in my last relationship and I do not want to have that happen again. For example I don't particularly like them holding my degree and credentials (I have a PhD) as meaning I'm somehow better than them, at least in some aspects.
Your prose is greatly appreciated
So timely! I just finished reading Wanting by Luke Burgis on how we often mimic what others want without knowing and the harm it can cause in relationships. Though insightful, it didn’t offer many actionable ideas to explore our wants. I appreciate the thoughtful journal prompts to examine those desires and be more aware of why we want what we want ❤️
I needed this today and will share it with my subscribers!
This was more relatable than I initially thought it would be. I also enjoyed your recommended reads. 2 articles mentioned the need for “awe” in our lives. I’m on it!! Thanks for the leads!
Nedra, Thank you for the thoughts on competition. There is a lot here that hit home. D