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May 3, 2023·edited May 3, 2023

I've chased several things in my life up until this point. When 2023 began, I decided to attract instead. Attracting allows me to decide what do I want that is going to come to me while I'm doing the work to make it appealing to me instead of chasing and striving after what does not fit best for me in my life vision. Learning to stop chasing doesn't come naturally; it comes with maturity and figuring out ones authentic self. Chasing could be a result of people-pleasing, following the crowd, and allowing others to live vicariously through us.

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This really couldn't have come into life in a greater time. I am looking to date once again and I recently found myself in various conversation with other men that hinted at the fact that what is meant for me is meant for me. If the woman I choose to pursue are meant to be in life they will make a conscious effort to do so!

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This is so timely!!! At 37 I’ve discovered so late that I haven’t been my authentic self. “Chasing” a life I don’t really want. I’ve done what my dad and my sister think I should do, and now I realize how awful it is to live their dreams, but not my own. It’s hard to have a life that feels inauthentic. It’s now very hard to make changes, but I’ve told myself that going forward I’m going to take better care of myself by doing things that feel good to me even if others don’t get it. The idea of starting over is scary so I’m taking smaller steps that feel good.

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I can definitely relate. Years ago I started to do things I was interested in. There was backlash from family members as we were taught that family came first and that our needs were seen as selfish. Even my own choice of clothes and hobbies were criticised. But that speaks more about them than me. Glad I followed my own path 😊

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You make writing seem like a simple task. The words flow like an open faucet. You seem to out do yourself at every turn. Hard work pays dividends✌🏿Thx

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