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So on point. I've learned this the hard way, and with lots of therapy. Some people are just "arm's length" people. They've let you know that you can't let them all the way in. Thanks for this post, Nedra.

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I loved this article. Many years ago when I was the victim of bullying and abuse in school, I used to try and confide in my mum on the condition she didn't tell my dad.

My dad would always react with anger and frustration but my mum felt bad keeping secrets. I've used the line "Don't tell anyone" on many occasions!

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May 9Liked by Nedra Glover Tawwab

Thank you for sharing this Nedra. One thing I’ve come to realise over the last year is how sacred of a gift true authentic friendship is. A connection where you’re free to fully express all parts of you and to share whatever you need to knowing that it will be kept private and the space is sacred between both individuals. It’s an unspoken truth that echoes through all aspects of your relationship. It’s a gift I’ve been blessed with in this life and I’m grateful for it 🙏🏽

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This is so useful, thank you. And really looking forward to the podcast!

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