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Rachel Malcolm's avatar

Thank you so much for this. At the moment I am going through a phase of wishing I made different decisions in the past, and feeling that I wasted so much time. I will try to reframe it, because everything we go through makes us who we are today, with a future that is unwritten ❤️

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Abigail Starke's avatar

This is what I am constantly doing. Wishing I didn’t. Trying not to.

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Young and Oversharing's avatar

Hi Nedra,

Thank you for this post. It's one of those that found me at the right time.

I have been wallowing and taking myself back in time wondering what I could have done differently to change my current circumstances. Truth is, nothing. I am where I am supposed to be be. I will be alright.

A needed reminder. Thank you.

Nobuhle💕

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Jessica Alice, DipCouns.'s avatar

A past experience I wanted to go back and change but have now accepted was my pets - I lost a horse and a dog, and rehomed the others due to a change in life circumstances. It nearly killed me at the time as my pets were a huge part of my identity, but now I realize it has given me so much time, money, opportunity and headspace, as well as the energy to do other things. It was hard, but I don't think I'd go back and change it now.

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Leslie’s Voice's avatar

I feel like this was meant for me! I love your messages, books, posts…All of it! So thank you Nedra for making a difference in my life. 💙🍃

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Negar Kamali's avatar

Because my MA degree was TEFL, four years ago I decided to work as an English teacher in a language institute. It lasted only three months, but it took me three years to make peace with it, with lots of oscillation between "That manager and her subordinates were bad people", and "Why the fuck did I think I'd be a good teacher??? Shame on you for being such a fool !!!!!!"

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Ruth Detablan's avatar

So happy that you’re posting and sharing such treasures on here again!!! Thank you!

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Jean's avatar

Wow! I really needed to hear this. Thank you!

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Suef52's avatar

So good! Giving ourselves grace is a form of self forgiveness 💟

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Anna Edwards's avatar

Wow! Thank you for this post. It is really powerful and something I needed to hear right now. Your work is so important and I appreciate all you do.

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Jeannie Ewing's avatar

Thank you, Nedra. How prescient, as just this morning, I asked myself what might be different if I got a real job instead of trying to make a living as a creative person. I always appreciate your reappraisal of life situations and existential questions.

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Kerline's avatar

I really needed this. I been having a hard time forgiving myself for past mistakes. But this has helped me get a different perspective on things. I’m actually feeling grateful for my past mistakes because of the many things that I’ve learned. Thank you!

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Abigail Starke's avatar

Yes, ms too.

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Michelle's avatar

I needed this🥰

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Dalisha's avatar

I can often find myself stuck in a blaming cycle once I learn new information after making a choice. Thank you for this. I'm reminding myself to practice acceptance and move through the world, rather than trying to control it.

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Abigail Starke's avatar

Me too

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Honey 🐝's avatar

this theme is so present for me! i just finished the book midnight library as part of a book club — same vibe and BRILLIANT book. i read it in under 24 hours

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Evelyn's avatar

Golden as usual. Thank you Mrs Nedra!

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