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e m i l y's avatar

I think people also take some of the examples of setting boundaries in your book as a script whereas I took it as more of a template. I've seen comments from people saying, "oh, that sounds cold" or "I couldn't say that." Tailor it to how you talk while still maintaining the boundary. I know it's easier if someone just tells us what to say but we need to do a *little* work. :)

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D Trahan's avatar

It's easy to replace the word boundary with the word barrier. I see boundaries as healthy for self-preservation in the sometimes chaotic world. Healthy boundaries allow for conversation and interactions within the limitations we set for ourselves. "Don't call me after 9 pm" or "I'd like a heads up before you come over" are not saying "no" just saying "not right now." On the other hand, the barrier is a wall that can emotionally divide people without communication or interaction.

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