I NEED THIS!!! I'm that annoying person who can't stop going on about toxic vegetable oil, hidden sugars, etc 🤣 My current thing is morning protein, because I've discovered chicken for breakfast is life-changing. But you're right, (unfortunately) most people aren't ready to change.
I feel slightly attacked, since as the eldest daughter, I believe everyone should follow my advice lol, but this was such a great piece both as a sharer and receiver.
Mind opening! I’m currently preparing a coach certification in nlp and talk all day long about It to everybody and any occasion 😁 is it a search for validation? Why do we need to « help » otherwise eventhough they never ask for it? Great article nedra. Txs for changing our lives bit by bit ❤️
This is such a well stated article and point of view ☺️ As a twin and former hive-mind church kid, I didn’t just think I had to share everything... it felt wrong not to. Like, actually mean.
Learning as a better-boundaried adult that it’s okay to keep some things for me has been huge. And honestly, it feels really good and self-satisfying sometimes to do something and know I’m the only one who knows it. Thanks for bringing this idea to us!
Well, now I’m embarrassed! Was really excited about a podcast I listened to and shared it with a couple people. Feel like I shouldn’t have done that now 🤦🏼♀️
you always know what I need to hear somehow. I have an overexcitement and controlling issue when it comes to my passion for healthy eating and how I think everyone needs to jump on board and your words were just what I needed. Thank you
Nedra, this is so helpful and awesome, and resonates deeply. Thank you so, so much, I'll be thinking about these words for a long time, and hope to apply them to daily life.
Why do I feel attacked? 😤 After I began reading your book, I became a prophet for applying and enforcing boundaries. I bought the book and workbook for my best friend and mother. However, this is where I went wrong. Whenever my mom would have issues with boundaries, instead of answering with compassion and being a supportive ear, I would start lecturing as though I’m an authority. Girl, I still haven’t finished the book and I still have porous boundaries. Who am I? I need to stay in my lane! So now I no longer ask my mom if she read the book. I decided to turn inward and focus on me. I’m working on closing up those pores in my boundaries and saying no with grace and respect. I pray my mom comes around. However, if she doesn’t, I’ll still be here, loving her nonetheless.
As I read this, I was thinking about how I quit drinking about a year before my spouse did. I never asked her to stop, I just explained what behaviors I wouldn’t tolerate, that I didn’t want to go to bars, etc. In the end she also quit, but I wasn’t sure that would happen. THEN I see you linked an article about this very issue! :)
Thank you for the gentle reminder that I can share with others and release the responsibility of "saving/ changing" them. Sometimes what we learn or receive is just for us, like you said. WOW!!! How much pressure have I put on my relationships with the expectation that because I love cherry ice cream, with chocolate chunks (among other things) those around me should love it too?
I NEED THIS!!! I'm that annoying person who can't stop going on about toxic vegetable oil, hidden sugars, etc 🤣 My current thing is morning protein, because I've discovered chicken for breakfast is life-changing. But you're right, (unfortunately) most people aren't ready to change.
I feel slightly attacked, since as the eldest daughter, I believe everyone should follow my advice lol, but this was such a great piece both as a sharer and receiver.
This is so true! Wisdom-- thank you!!
Mind opening! I’m currently preparing a coach certification in nlp and talk all day long about It to everybody and any occasion 😁 is it a search for validation? Why do we need to « help » otherwise eventhough they never ask for it? Great article nedra. Txs for changing our lives bit by bit ❤️
Nedra, thank you for your inspiring and illuminating content.
This is such a well stated article and point of view ☺️ As a twin and former hive-mind church kid, I didn’t just think I had to share everything... it felt wrong not to. Like, actually mean.
Learning as a better-boundaried adult that it’s okay to keep some things for me has been huge. And honestly, it feels really good and self-satisfying sometimes to do something and know I’m the only one who knows it. Thanks for bringing this idea to us!
DITTO!
Well, now I’m embarrassed! Was really excited about a podcast I listened to and shared it with a couple people. Feel like I shouldn’t have done that now 🤦🏼♀️
Nah, it's ok to share! It's just if you keep bringing it up and expecting people to change, that it crosses that line
This is so true. A very inspiring piece, thank you.
you always know what I need to hear somehow. I have an overexcitement and controlling issue when it comes to my passion for healthy eating and how I think everyone needs to jump on board and your words were just what I needed. Thank you
This was great. I enjoy reading Nedra's Nuggets. Please keep them coming.
Nedra, this is so helpful and awesome, and resonates deeply. Thank you so, so much, I'll be thinking about these words for a long time, and hope to apply them to daily life.
Why do I feel attacked? 😤 After I began reading your book, I became a prophet for applying and enforcing boundaries. I bought the book and workbook for my best friend and mother. However, this is where I went wrong. Whenever my mom would have issues with boundaries, instead of answering with compassion and being a supportive ear, I would start lecturing as though I’m an authority. Girl, I still haven’t finished the book and I still have porous boundaries. Who am I? I need to stay in my lane! So now I no longer ask my mom if she read the book. I decided to turn inward and focus on me. I’m working on closing up those pores in my boundaries and saying no with grace and respect. I pray my mom comes around. However, if she doesn’t, I’ll still be here, loving her nonetheless.
Absolutely. Knowing who and when we can share things with can help us feel more heard and seen as well!
As I read this, I was thinking about how I quit drinking about a year before my spouse did. I never asked her to stop, I just explained what behaviors I wouldn’t tolerate, that I didn’t want to go to bars, etc. In the end she also quit, but I wasn’t sure that would happen. THEN I see you linked an article about this very issue! :)
Thank you for the gentle reminder that I can share with others and release the responsibility of "saving/ changing" them. Sometimes what we learn or receive is just for us, like you said. WOW!!! How much pressure have I put on my relationships with the expectation that because I love cherry ice cream, with chocolate chunks (among other things) those around me should love it too?
Amen. Share your wisdom where it can take root because some soil just isn’t ready for the seed yet or ever. And that’s okay!