I've been thinking about this a lot the past few days as I brought a matter up to my mom while reinforcing a boundary, but found myself going in circles trying to get her to understand my perspective. As a person who is vocal about the beauty in our differences and importance in perspectives, I get that aspect. I feel like it's "easier" to come to terms with those types of choices rather than the matters that go beyond preference. In attempting to explain perspectives held by many because they're being affected not only interpersonally but systemically, I realize some people are unable to differentiate and see beyond personal experiences. I feel that all I can do then is accept the fact and move accordingly with that knowing, but a part of me still feels a way since it happens to be with those I'd ideally like to feel closer to.
Great post. as I got older I started to feel as though certain friendships or people weren’t aligned with my life if we disagreed on something. It wouldn’t be all things but it would be key things that made me think “maybe we’re not suppose to be friends”. But just recently I have accepted that we’re different and our experiences shape us and I just don’t need to share my opinion on those things with them.
I agree with you. It’s great to have friends that are on the opposite side of my opinion. It helps me to get another perspective and not only surround myself with people that agree with me. On certain subjects where I know we will agree to disagree, we don’t abandon friendship. We continue to connect in other ways. The key though is that we both have the ability to let the other be who they are.
Ahhh yes I love the way you worded it. That key “ability to let the other be who they are” is what I had to work on and accept. Lol. It was hard at first but now I’m growing through it and just taking in a new perspective , even if it’s not my own. Thanks Margaritte!
Love this and the reasons why sometimes we don’t mesh with others are so on point. We indeed are not sometimes for everyone nor they for us. Thank you Nedra!
Thank you for this, Nedra. This and several of your Nuggets have me looking back at a failed relationship from a newfound perspective. Your words are like an x-ray vision of past situations. I read this and can recall the moments of discomfort triggered by those same bullet points. Again thank you for posting these words.
I've been thinking about this a lot the past few days as I brought a matter up to my mom while reinforcing a boundary, but found myself going in circles trying to get her to understand my perspective. As a person who is vocal about the beauty in our differences and importance in perspectives, I get that aspect. I feel like it's "easier" to come to terms with those types of choices rather than the matters that go beyond preference. In attempting to explain perspectives held by many because they're being affected not only interpersonally but systemically, I realize some people are unable to differentiate and see beyond personal experiences. I feel that all I can do then is accept the fact and move accordingly with that knowing, but a part of me still feels a way since it happens to be with those I'd ideally like to feel closer to.
Thank you for sharing this, Nedra. This is exactly the prompt I needed this week!
Thank you, amazing article as usual.
Great post. as I got older I started to feel as though certain friendships or people weren’t aligned with my life if we disagreed on something. It wouldn’t be all things but it would be key things that made me think “maybe we’re not suppose to be friends”. But just recently I have accepted that we’re different and our experiences shape us and I just don’t need to share my opinion on those things with them.
I agree with you. It’s great to have friends that are on the opposite side of my opinion. It helps me to get another perspective and not only surround myself with people that agree with me. On certain subjects where I know we will agree to disagree, we don’t abandon friendship. We continue to connect in other ways. The key though is that we both have the ability to let the other be who they are.
Ahhh yes I love the way you worded it. That key “ability to let the other be who they are” is what I had to work on and accept. Lol. It was hard at first but now I’m growing through it and just taking in a new perspective , even if it’s not my own. Thanks Margaritte!
Love this and the reasons why sometimes we don’t mesh with others are so on point. We indeed are not sometimes for everyone nor they for us. Thank you Nedra!
Thank you for this, Nedra. This and several of your Nuggets have me looking back at a failed relationship from a newfound perspective. Your words are like an x-ray vision of past situations. I read this and can recall the moments of discomfort triggered by those same bullet points. Again thank you for posting these words.
This post is EVERYTHING.