Exactly. Emotional maturity is about emotional accountability, I think.
Emotionally intelligent people can still overfunction, because while they are empathetic, and sensitive to conflict, they have difficulties to tolerate tension so they intervene to regulate others, preventing them to face the emotional consequences of their actions.
One question I find useful: When I care, do I trust in the capacity of the other to handle this, or I choose to carry it instead of them?
Dear Nedra. Long time listener first time commenter. Do you have any wisdom, advice or tips to share about when you are unfortunately in the situation of always needing communicate from within physical pain. I am trying to grow- very hard- but I feel this often thwarts my efforts. Thank you.
I tend to break this down even further. I differentiate between both social and emotional intelligence and then emotional maturity. There's knowing others well and then there's knowing thine own self and then there's applying that knowledge both to relationships with others and within one's own self. Understanding the aforementioned allows me to extend more grace to both others and myself in those various areas. Thanks for the reminder.
I love your work, Nedra. Your Boundaries calendar cards are all over my room, propped where I’ll see them. But I’m backsliding. Two years of my health getting worse while it feels like Medicine wants me to die is … tough, and I snap. I built myself up, got myself out of some toxic situations, and now I’m sinking again. It’s embarrassing. Lack of support is turning ME into the toxic person.
Nedra, wow, you gave me so much clarity in this essay today. I have always used emotional intelligence and emotional maturity synonymously, but I love your differentiation as the former being awareness and the latter being application. Brilliant.
Your paragraph about applying emotional maturity 30% of the time actually served as a re-frame for me in my expectations for my husband's emotional growth, so thank you for that. I think extending more grace to him (and myself) will be helpful in our marriage.
we fluctuate so much and our actions suffer as a result! this piece made me think about how we aren’t always perfect, though we can strive to be. it also made me think about how we can forgive ourselves for reacting badly sometimes.
Exactly. Emotional maturity is about emotional accountability, I think.
Emotionally intelligent people can still overfunction, because while they are empathetic, and sensitive to conflict, they have difficulties to tolerate tension so they intervene to regulate others, preventing them to face the emotional consequences of their actions.
One question I find useful: When I care, do I trust in the capacity of the other to handle this, or I choose to carry it instead of them?
Dear Nedra. Long time listener first time commenter. Do you have any wisdom, advice or tips to share about when you are unfortunately in the situation of always needing communicate from within physical pain. I am trying to grow- very hard- but I feel this often thwarts my efforts. Thank you.
Love this and thank you for clarifying the two! 💐
Amazing read! ✨
I really needed this today. Thanks for sharing and reminding me that growth isn't a linear path.
Your work is incredible. Grateful for your words and wisdom.
I tend to break this down even further. I differentiate between both social and emotional intelligence and then emotional maturity. There's knowing others well and then there's knowing thine own self and then there's applying that knowledge both to relationships with others and within one's own self. Understanding the aforementioned allows me to extend more grace to both others and myself in those various areas. Thanks for the reminder.
I love your work, Nedra. Your Boundaries calendar cards are all over my room, propped where I’ll see them. But I’m backsliding. Two years of my health getting worse while it feels like Medicine wants me to die is … tough, and I snap. I built myself up, got myself out of some toxic situations, and now I’m sinking again. It’s embarrassing. Lack of support is turning ME into the toxic person.
Nedra, wow, you gave me so much clarity in this essay today. I have always used emotional intelligence and emotional maturity synonymously, but I love your differentiation as the former being awareness and the latter being application. Brilliant.
Your paragraph about applying emotional maturity 30% of the time actually served as a re-frame for me in my expectations for my husband's emotional growth, so thank you for that. I think extending more grace to him (and myself) will be helpful in our marriage.
Great points! Im constantly fluctuating between the two. I really want to work towards embodying emotionally maturity even more.
Great read 💎
we fluctuate so much and our actions suffer as a result! this piece made me think about how we aren’t always perfect, though we can strive to be. it also made me think about how we can forgive ourselves for reacting badly sometimes.