Great reminder that healing is unique to each injury and individual!! What worked for someone else, may not for me! Thanks for this encouragement today!
I know this is about relationships but I recently carelessly went to a rave without ear protection and gave myself what appears to be permanent tinnitus. I’ve been beating myself up over it and feeling like I’m going mad, but this gave me the reminder to be gentle with myself and optimistic about what the future will hold. This is likely a much needed reminder to look out for my health and well-being in other areas of my life as well
This is so poignant. I definitely wanted to just "get through" my healing and then move on with my life. It's taken many many years of this journey to realize that the more you heal, the more things you find to heal. It's an ongoing process.
Yes, it is very important to take your time. But taking too much time might and avoiding the situation might get one to the point of no return. It feels good to life like you have all the time in the world, but it is awful to when you realise it is too late. So meditate on what happened, learn the lessons, make a decision and act on it.
Perfect timing! Prayer,Bible reading, talking to friend's and my therapist, sleep routine, Journaling, conversation(s) with the offender, properly eating, exercise, getting out the house, setting boundaries to stop talking about it or receive information about the offender from other's , even deleting their number, catching onto the root of why I want to reach out for my comfort, learning what my needs are and learning to runaway from toxic love and learning to grieve ppl who are alive, and take inventory, and accept my emotional growth spurt. I said I wasn't ready for reconnection then rushed into it to regain my status as a" priority" person, all to realize she's not fretting or checking in nor inquiring about me nor initiating contact unless I reach out first then she speaks to me and wants to support and hang out with me. Then i learned we make choices off of other ppls choices that are hard for us but we survive and adjust . Then I learned my need for my mother to actually "be" my mother is what's ruined my relationship and the Situation with my BFF mimicked past traumas with my mom that she (bff) was attached to and I gravitated to in crisis with my mother for comfort and to be chosen family. Hard lessons come daily.
Thank you for sharing. When I was recovering from PTSD, it definitely took longer than a day! I also read the article from The Cut. So many things that bothered me. Exposure therapy cannot work with kids who cannot give informed consent like an adult; they just end up traumatized. Especially if they are neurodivergent. And the parent that said his kids “turned into introverts” after one year of remote learning?! Maybe it wasn’t the remote school but the trauma of living through a pandemic and being in lockdown and hearing the news, etc etc. My sister had mental health days when she was young and she now has a Master’s degree in engineering. My autistic daughter ended up staying at home years during and after the pandemic because of school trauma and burnout. Our home life was miserable, walking on egg shells. She is now enrolled in homeschool, happy and enjoying her special interests, being creative and chatting with online friends, going out to activities with her best friend, being a part of the world. She needed time and safety to recover.
Thank you for taking the time to share this Nedra. I’ve realised along my journey that healing happens in layers. We have to give ourselves the space and grace to let nature take its course with us. Some days we may feel totally fine and other days, like a mess. Both are ok and human. It’s part of the healing journey. One song I’ve enjoyed listening to recently that I feel others will also enjoy is this: https://open.spotify.com/track/7kdJcH97qbvW7ubH6ukOTf?si=Ubi5_1DATtKwU9cmla2SHw
Thanks for this Post. I work with Olympic athletes, and i am allways teaching them about the importance of "take the right time to recover from injuries"
As someone who has had the unfortunate plight of numerous injuries, I found myself in PT way more than I cared to. But I came to appreciate the therapeutic and rehabilitative process. Many of the same precepts apply to emotional and mental recovery. What I'd like to emphasize though is that it's not just about time. Rather doing the necessary work to gain strength and mobility to return to sport as confidently as possible. It does take time but healing in my view is not a function of time as much as it is following appropriate rehabilitative protocols. Which could take more or less time depending on the nature of the injury and how soon we begin the therapeutic process.
I have also been in a similar position with a sibling. In the end I reached out but finally realised that there would never be any change or accountability on her part. It was just "business as usual" from her perspective. Any attempt to describe my hurt just fell on deaf ears. Get over it or its in the past or you're too sensitive were thrown back at me. I feel your uncertainty and it's painful. I was glad I reached out and finally gained the acceptance that the relationship was unfixable.
Excellent! "The letter you never send" is a therapy technique I learned and it does wonders for our healing especially in carrying resentment and disappointment. But UT leads to healing and emotional responsibility, release, and freedom leading to peace. And what's helped me is to go for long walks when I get heated up when i ruminate too much and walk until there's a calming peace, and then I said 3 good thing's about them I like-daily, and do thing's I enjoy leaning into self discovery so thank you for reminding me it's time for a new letter to be written and to lean into my joyous self care of writing and podcasting again!
thanks for this. Yes important to take time heal to don't attract negative people or self-sabotage
A great reminder that allowing ourselves space and time to adjust is all part of healting
Great reminder that healing is unique to each injury and individual!! What worked for someone else, may not for me! Thanks for this encouragement today!
https://gregorypettys.substack.com/p/might-the-sickness-be-shedding-light
I know this is about relationships but I recently carelessly went to a rave without ear protection and gave myself what appears to be permanent tinnitus. I’ve been beating myself up over it and feeling like I’m going mad, but this gave me the reminder to be gentle with myself and optimistic about what the future will hold. This is likely a much needed reminder to look out for my health and well-being in other areas of my life as well
This is so poignant. I definitely wanted to just "get through" my healing and then move on with my life. It's taken many many years of this journey to realize that the more you heal, the more things you find to heal. It's an ongoing process.
The more work you to, the more work you find to do. True indeed!
https://open.substack.com/pub/gregorypettys?r=f1gey&utm_medium=ios
Yes, it is very important to take your time. But taking too much time might and avoiding the situation might get one to the point of no return. It feels good to life like you have all the time in the world, but it is awful to when you realise it is too late. So meditate on what happened, learn the lessons, make a decision and act on it.
Excellent article. Loved the bullet points. "Show remorse" or make amends is crucial for repair.
Yep. One breath at a time. Thank you for posting this nugget. Greatly appreciate the kind reminder.
Perfect timing! Prayer,Bible reading, talking to friend's and my therapist, sleep routine, Journaling, conversation(s) with the offender, properly eating, exercise, getting out the house, setting boundaries to stop talking about it or receive information about the offender from other's , even deleting their number, catching onto the root of why I want to reach out for my comfort, learning what my needs are and learning to runaway from toxic love and learning to grieve ppl who are alive, and take inventory, and accept my emotional growth spurt. I said I wasn't ready for reconnection then rushed into it to regain my status as a" priority" person, all to realize she's not fretting or checking in nor inquiring about me nor initiating contact unless I reach out first then she speaks to me and wants to support and hang out with me. Then i learned we make choices off of other ppls choices that are hard for us but we survive and adjust . Then I learned my need for my mother to actually "be" my mother is what's ruined my relationship and the Situation with my BFF mimicked past traumas with my mom that she (bff) was attached to and I gravitated to in crisis with my mother for comfort and to be chosen family. Hard lessons come daily.
Thank you for sharing. When I was recovering from PTSD, it definitely took longer than a day! I also read the article from The Cut. So many things that bothered me. Exposure therapy cannot work with kids who cannot give informed consent like an adult; they just end up traumatized. Especially if they are neurodivergent. And the parent that said his kids “turned into introverts” after one year of remote learning?! Maybe it wasn’t the remote school but the trauma of living through a pandemic and being in lockdown and hearing the news, etc etc. My sister had mental health days when she was young and she now has a Master’s degree in engineering. My autistic daughter ended up staying at home years during and after the pandemic because of school trauma and burnout. Our home life was miserable, walking on egg shells. She is now enrolled in homeschool, happy and enjoying her special interests, being creative and chatting with online friends, going out to activities with her best friend, being a part of the world. She needed time and safety to recover.
Thank you for taking the time to share this Nedra. I’ve realised along my journey that healing happens in layers. We have to give ourselves the space and grace to let nature take its course with us. Some days we may feel totally fine and other days, like a mess. Both are ok and human. It’s part of the healing journey. One song I’ve enjoyed listening to recently that I feel others will also enjoy is this: https://open.spotify.com/track/7kdJcH97qbvW7ubH6ukOTf?si=Ubi5_1DATtKwU9cmla2SHw
Thank you for this 🫶🏼
Thanks for this Post. I work with Olympic athletes, and i am allways teaching them about the importance of "take the right time to recover from injuries"
As someone who has had the unfortunate plight of numerous injuries, I found myself in PT way more than I cared to. But I came to appreciate the therapeutic and rehabilitative process. Many of the same precepts apply to emotional and mental recovery. What I'd like to emphasize though is that it's not just about time. Rather doing the necessary work to gain strength and mobility to return to sport as confidently as possible. It does take time but healing in my view is not a function of time as much as it is following appropriate rehabilitative protocols. Which could take more or less time depending on the nature of the injury and how soon we begin the therapeutic process.
I like this. It's a holistic approach to recovery.
I have also been in a similar position with a sibling. In the end I reached out but finally realised that there would never be any change or accountability on her part. It was just "business as usual" from her perspective. Any attempt to describe my hurt just fell on deaf ears. Get over it or its in the past or you're too sensitive were thrown back at me. I feel your uncertainty and it's painful. I was glad I reached out and finally gained the acceptance that the relationship was unfixable.
Excellent! "The letter you never send" is a therapy technique I learned and it does wonders for our healing especially in carrying resentment and disappointment. But UT leads to healing and emotional responsibility, release, and freedom leading to peace. And what's helped me is to go for long walks when I get heated up when i ruminate too much and walk until there's a calming peace, and then I said 3 good thing's about them I like-daily, and do thing's I enjoy leaning into self discovery so thank you for reminding me it's time for a new letter to be written and to lean into my joyous self care of writing and podcasting again!