Change Is Inevitable, Stop Fighting It
Transitions Are a Part of the Process
We forget that we’ve always been making transitions. We go from one class to the next, one school to another. We meet new friends. We learn our way around unfamiliar spaces. We get to know our new teacher. The hard part of making these transitions is wrapping our mind around the change, and getting acclimated to our new circumstances.
Some changes are welcome, and others are more difficult to accept, but they all present challenges. Life transitions can include:
Losing a loved one
Moving somewhere new
Starting a new school
Becoming a parent
Losing a job
Navigating life through a pandemic
We can find our way through transitions, and learn to adjust by:
Recognizing that there is an acclimation period. Whether we wanted the change or not we have to take some time to figure out the new protocol, and new way of being.
Figuring out the systems that will allow you to settle into your new set of circumstances. Determine what support or resources you may need.
Deciding how you want to show up in this new space. Transitions can present us with the opportunity to explore or uplift parts of ourselves that we haven’t previously. You can decide to be different.
In the fall, I always see stuff online saying “Let the trees teach you about change,” because their leaves are shifting and shedding. I used to think it was cheesy, but maybe we should be like the trees. Maybe we should welcome change, embrace change, and accept that transitions are inevitable.
Journal Prompt
What transition have you recently experienced? What strategies did you use to cope?
A Few Things That Caught My Attention This Week
Want to Feel Happier? Stop Thinking About it, by Michelle Konstantinovsky on Oprah Daily.
People Who Make Good First Impressions Never Do These 4 Things – Even ‘When They’re Nervous,’ by Celeste Headlee on CNBC.
How We Heal: Uncover Your Purpose and Set Yourself Free, by Alex Elle. You can find the book on Amazon and Bookshop.
Are You a Toxic Forgiver on Red Table Talk with guests Sheree Zampino, Jana Kramer, and me. You can watch this episode here.
Nedra Nuggets has moved to Substack. It’s the same great, short content in a new space. You will notice some additional features and changes in format.
In 2021 I told my sister that I was feel uneasy and I feel like a change is coming. I could not put my finger on it to narrow it down but I did want to prepare for it. At that time I thought I was in a relationship that was going to take further in life mentally and emotionally. January 1st, 2022, that change came. My relationship ended abruptly and in the worst way possible. I don't think I'd ever been that uncomfortable in life. I did not know how to handle 1) coming out of a relationship (even though I have been in a few relationships already) 2) how to express my emotions 3) how to handle and process my emotions 4) learning me again. This change was terrifying for me because I did not know what to do. I somehow figure this had to do with boundaries and I came across your book. We are in November 2022 right now and I am honestly proud of myself. I am still fighting change in life but I am now aware on taking the necessary steps. Taking more self accountability, giving myself more grace, understanding that my life is not happy if I am not happy. I am still working through some changes. I am about to embark on my biggest change yet that would rearrange the way I live life. I am putting me first so that I can understand what I need to do to adjust.
How long is too long for that “acclimation period?” It seems like lately so many of us have change after change after change... like just as you start to get used to one “change,” BAM! Another serious change happens to make you fall backwards. Adulting and changes... nobody prepares us for this. Thank you for being a great voice in helping us along. I also love your book recommendation lists.