Thank you so much for this. Friendship heartbreak is a very real burden for me that I often feel no one understands. This was so validating and helpful🤍
Thank you Nedra for addressing this; I will come back to this. I am sorry to say I have disparaged some friends at the anger stage of grief; in future I will give them and me more grace!
I just finished your book Drama Free before I came across your instagram story that lead me to this post. I absolutely needed to see this message today! Friendship breakups are truly devastating especially when you genuinely never seen your life without them. I feel like we don’t talk enough about the guilt that comes with letting go of a friendship. Reading this message today just reminded me that is okay to choose your peace, love people from a distance, and allow yourself to let go with love and appreciation.
Well-said! Thank you so much for writing this! I had a friendship end recently, and it was hard for me because there was some level of bitterness. But with time and the help from other friends and family, it became a stepping stone for me.
***Want to recommend each other’s Substacks and collaborate, Nedra? We have very similar posts!
This is so timely and a healing balm for exactly what I’ve been going through for the past... year. I just recently wrote a piece on my Substack about friendships and grieving the ones who left. I wrote it with the intention to make more sense of my bitter thoughts and jaded feelings. I felt better after writing it but those perspectives and emotions still linger from time to time. So much of what you said has made me feel more seen and is a sweet reminder that I’m not alone.
It’s so much easier to focus on the loss, what no longer is. But the fact that those friendships happened -- yes yes... that is a blessing. Thank you 🫶🏽
Nedra you are a godsend. I absolutely love your wisdom and insight, thank you for sharing your gifts with us. I recently in the middle of a friendship breakup and it hurts. There is not a lot of support or acknowledgment of this type of hardship so it feels extra lonely. Please share away particularly more on this topic.
I’ve been on both sides of this and neither feels good. The hardest thing for me has been when friendships either end abruptly or die a slow lingering death with no real explanation. Without some sort of closure, I’ve found it hard to let go, extending my grief. I can try to reframe it all I want, but if I can’t fully express my feelings, it feels unfinished. Eventually, my grief fades, but it takes longer and is much more complicated.
Thank you, Nedra. I have a decades-old friend I just broke up with very recently due to boundary issues. I felt that she was not supporting my growth -- actually preventing it -- and has issues I shouldn’t be responsible for. Protecting my peace. ♥️
Thank you so much for this. Friendship heartbreak is a very real burden for me that I often feel no one understands. This was so validating and helpful🤍
"a vacancy in representation rather than an absence in reality" so well said (and applies to too many things)
I feel you!
Thank you Nedra for addressing this; I will come back to this. I am sorry to say I have disparaged some friends at the anger stage of grief; in future I will give them and me more grace!
I just finished your book Drama Free before I came across your instagram story that lead me to this post. I absolutely needed to see this message today! Friendship breakups are truly devastating especially when you genuinely never seen your life without them. I feel like we don’t talk enough about the guilt that comes with letting go of a friendship. Reading this message today just reminded me that is okay to choose your peace, love people from a distance, and allow yourself to let go with love and appreciation.
I've always loved ur posts! Do keep posting .. cuz ik I'll root for it!! ❤
Well-said! Thank you so much for writing this! I had a friendship end recently, and it was hard for me because there was some level of bitterness. But with time and the help from other friends and family, it became a stepping stone for me.
***Want to recommend each other’s Substacks and collaborate, Nedra? We have very similar posts!
Thank you - I needed this.
This is so timely and a healing balm for exactly what I’ve been going through for the past... year. I just recently wrote a piece on my Substack about friendships and grieving the ones who left. I wrote it with the intention to make more sense of my bitter thoughts and jaded feelings. I felt better after writing it but those perspectives and emotions still linger from time to time. So much of what you said has made me feel more seen and is a sweet reminder that I’m not alone.
It’s so much easier to focus on the loss, what no longer is. But the fact that those friendships happened -- yes yes... that is a blessing. Thank you 🫶🏽
Thank you 💜💜💜
Nedra you are a godsend. I absolutely love your wisdom and insight, thank you for sharing your gifts with us. I recently in the middle of a friendship breakup and it hurts. There is not a lot of support or acknowledgment of this type of hardship so it feels extra lonely. Please share away particularly more on this topic.
I loved this!
I’ve been on both sides of this and neither feels good. The hardest thing for me has been when friendships either end abruptly or die a slow lingering death with no real explanation. Without some sort of closure, I’ve found it hard to let go, extending my grief. I can try to reframe it all I want, but if I can’t fully express my feelings, it feels unfinished. Eventually, my grief fades, but it takes longer and is much more complicated.
Thank you for this! Thought provoking as always!
Nedra, Well written and valuable perspectives on the ends of beginnings and ends that are part of life. D
Thank you, Nedra. I have a decades-old friend I just broke up with very recently due to boundary issues. I felt that she was not supporting my growth -- actually preventing it -- and has issues I shouldn’t be responsible for. Protecting my peace. ♥️
Another great read. Thank you for your words of encouragement in my inbox. Always look forward to reading your email.