Honoring your capacity and the capacity of others
One of the ways I know I’m at capacity is when I begin to feel overwhelmed or frustrated with my days. It’s a sign to slow down and take a step back. To pause 🙏🏽
It's so important to take note of our capacity while practicing compassion that we may not have as much as we usually do. It's okay, we will get back to that place.
I absolutely loved this🤍
Great post. Thanks.
this is EVERYTHING. I needed to hear this. I am queen of going past empty tank /burnt out to my holistic being is like a burned down house! Lol 😂 I think the Pick me Up list is going to be something I try. But the journal prompts are something to meditate on knowing my capacity is shorter than others and this gives me the boundary I need with myself and to prevent others triggering my people pleaser issues.
What amazing gems! I especially appreciated the different signs of possibly running on E as a few weren’t things I’d typically think of; also the notes of when others may be at their capacity and how to navigate that space.
As always, fabulous Nedra!
I love that illustration about the car. We all have an “indicator light”
This was so on point for me.
I am often the “ to go to “ person for family members. and friends.
As much as I try to maintain healthy boundaries, I am not always successful.
I have been forced to appear in family court almost monthly since November of last year due to a narcissistic abuser who is on par with Donald trump. Last month, I reached capacity. I was supposed to submit a document the day after court and I just did not have the wherewithal to do anymore. It was the first time in nine years that I said, “I just don’t have it in me to do it, right now.” I’ve had to be inscrutable (because women are not deemed credible in the [in]justice system, especially if you have been victimized.) I found myself at the end of my tether and I decided I could not do anymore, was not going to do more at that time. I haven’t even been able to check in with my best friend from college who is suffering from stage 4 cancer. I felt bad, but not guilty because it was really what I needed to do for myself and my child. It ended up working to my benefit because I ended getting help with the document I was required to complete from an unexpected source and it worked out far better than what I would have had the ability to do. Surrender worked.
Such great content and relevance to take a step back and process our feelings instead of everyone else’s
So important. Thank you for this. I love the metaphor of the car eventually breaking down. Really clarified the concept. I also like the word “honoring” - as in really really respecting our own capacities and others. (And lasagna is yummy.)
This was a great read, Nedra! I've been dealing with this lately and didn't understand what was happening. Thank you for sharing this with us. I neded to read this.