One of the ways I know I’m at capacity is when I begin to feel overwhelmed or frustrated with my days. It’s a sign to slow down and take a step back. To pause 🙏🏽
It's so important to take note of our capacity while practicing compassion that we may not have as much as we usually do. It's okay, we will get back to that place.
That’s beautifully said Maileah. Self-compassion is an art that is cultivated with practise over time. It’s something I’m learning to lean into more and more. It’s ok to pause and exhale. Life isn’t a race to be completed but a journey to be explored 🤍
this is EVERYTHING. I needed to hear this. I am queen of going past empty tank /burnt out to my holistic being is like a burned down house! Lol 😂 I think the Pick me Up list is going to be something I try. But the journal prompts are something to meditate on knowing my capacity is shorter than others and this gives me the boundary I need with myself and to prevent others triggering my people pleaser issues.
What amazing gems! I especially appreciated the different signs of possibly running on E as a few weren’t things I’d typically think of; also the notes of when others may be at their capacity and how to navigate that space.
I’m the same Marie. It can getting overwhelming to always be the one people go to. What I found has helped me is knowing that I do not have an obligation to help everyone. I do not need to feel guilty for setting boundaries and I certainly don’t need to know all of the answers 🙏🏽
I have been forced to appear in family court almost monthly since November of last year due to a narcissistic abuser who is on par with Donald trump. Last month, I reached capacity. I was supposed to submit a document the day after court and I just did not have the wherewithal to do anymore. It was the first time in nine years that I said, “I just don’t have it in me to do it, right now.” I’ve had to be inscrutable (because women are not deemed credible in the [in]justice system, especially if you have been victimized.) I found myself at the end of my tether and I decided I could not do anymore, was not going to do more at that time. I haven’t even been able to check in with my best friend from college who is suffering from stage 4 cancer. I felt bad, but not guilty because it was really what I needed to do for myself and my child. It ended up working to my benefit because I ended getting help with the document I was required to complete from an unexpected source and it worked out far better than what I would have had the ability to do. Surrender worked.
So important. Thank you for this. I love the metaphor of the car eventually breaking down. Really clarified the concept. I also like the word “honoring” - as in really really respecting our own capacities and others. (And lasagna is yummy.)
This was a great read, Nedra! I've been dealing with this lately and didn't understand what was happening. Thank you for sharing this with us. I neded to read this.
One of the ways I know I’m at capacity is when I begin to feel overwhelmed or frustrated with my days. It’s a sign to slow down and take a step back. To pause 🙏🏽
It's so important to take note of our capacity while practicing compassion that we may not have as much as we usually do. It's okay, we will get back to that place.
That’s beautifully said Maileah. Self-compassion is an art that is cultivated with practise over time. It’s something I’m learning to lean into more and more. It’s ok to pause and exhale. Life isn’t a race to be completed but a journey to be explored 🤍
I absolutely loved this🤍
Great post. Thanks.
this is EVERYTHING. I needed to hear this. I am queen of going past empty tank /burnt out to my holistic being is like a burned down house! Lol 😂 I think the Pick me Up list is going to be something I try. But the journal prompts are something to meditate on knowing my capacity is shorter than others and this gives me the boundary I need with myself and to prevent others triggering my people pleaser issues.
I’m curious Brittany, what do you feel causes you to go beyond your capacity?
What amazing gems! I especially appreciated the different signs of possibly running on E as a few weren’t things I’d typically think of; also the notes of when others may be at their capacity and how to navigate that space.
As always, fabulous Nedra!
I love that illustration about the car. We all have an “indicator light”
This was so on point for me.
I am often the “ to go to “ person for family members. and friends.
As much as I try to maintain healthy boundaries, I am not always successful.
I’m the same Marie. It can getting overwhelming to always be the one people go to. What I found has helped me is knowing that I do not have an obligation to help everyone. I do not need to feel guilty for setting boundaries and I certainly don’t need to know all of the answers 🙏🏽
I have been forced to appear in family court almost monthly since November of last year due to a narcissistic abuser who is on par with Donald trump. Last month, I reached capacity. I was supposed to submit a document the day after court and I just did not have the wherewithal to do anymore. It was the first time in nine years that I said, “I just don’t have it in me to do it, right now.” I’ve had to be inscrutable (because women are not deemed credible in the [in]justice system, especially if you have been victimized.) I found myself at the end of my tether and I decided I could not do anymore, was not going to do more at that time. I haven’t even been able to check in with my best friend from college who is suffering from stage 4 cancer. I felt bad, but not guilty because it was really what I needed to do for myself and my child. It ended up working to my benefit because I ended getting help with the document I was required to complete from an unexpected source and it worked out far better than what I would have had the ability to do. Surrender worked.
Such great content and relevance to take a step back and process our feelings instead of everyone else’s
So important. Thank you for this. I love the metaphor of the car eventually breaking down. Really clarified the concept. I also like the word “honoring” - as in really really respecting our own capacities and others. (And lasagna is yummy.)
This was a great read, Nedra! I've been dealing with this lately and didn't understand what was happening. Thank you for sharing this with us. I neded to read this.